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Author: Pilar

  • things you’re afraid to tell your therapist

    things you’re afraid to tell your therapist

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    Pilar

    feeling relief when your parent dies there is a version of grief that we talk about that includes feelings of sadness, longing, heartbreak… and there is a version of grief that is often quieter, a little scarier to admit: relief. feeling a sense of relief when a parent dies is a complex. perhaps you’re relieved…

  • six hard truths from a licensed therapist

    six hard truths from a licensed therapist

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    Pilar

  • things you’re afraid to tell your therapist (but are more common than you think)

    things you’re afraid to tell your therapist (but are more common than you think)

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    Pilar

    pART OF YOU REGRETS HAVING CHILDREN AND YOU’RE AFRAID THAT YOU’RE A BAD MOTHER. IT’S NATURAL TO GRIEVE THE LIFE THAT YOU LIVED PRIOR TO BECOMING A MOTHER. THERE IS OFTEN AN IDENTITY CRISIS OF SORTS, AS THE LIFE YOU LIVED “BEFORE” FEELS DISTANT AND STRANGE. AND THE LIFE YOU LIVE NOW DOESN’T QUITE FIT…

  • Empathy vs. Codependency: Know the Difference

    Empathy vs. Codependency: Know the Difference

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    Pilar

    Codependent relationship patterns + 3 things you can do to reframe them: Empathy is an ability to share someone else’s feelings deeply, imagining what it would be like to be in that person’s narrative/situation. Being empathetic allows us to connect with the feelings of others, and leads to authentic, vulnerable relationships.  Codependency is when the…

  • 3 Simple Strategies to Manage Anxiety

    3 Simple Strategies to Manage Anxiety

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    Pilar

    Learn about anxiety, what it is and three simple strategies to manage it.

  • 5 Things You May Have Needed To Hear As A Child

    5 Things You May Have Needed To Hear As A Child

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    Pilar

    5 Things You May Have Needed To Hear As A Child 1 / You can stand up for yourself. It does not mean you are selfish. 2 / I am proud of you. 3 / It’s okay to make mistakes. 4 / Thank you for sharing your feelings with me. 5 / You don’t have…

  • 10 Ways To Rest That Isn’t Napping

    10 Ways To Rest That Isn’t Napping

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    Pilar

    Holiday weekends are great and can deplete our energy 😴 Here are 10 ways to rest in addition to napping! When you need rest, but a nap isn’t cutting it – try one of these things instead! 1 / Color, doodle, draw – this can be a very effective way to relax while engaging the…

  • 5 Signs You’re Healing From Codependent Relationships

    5 Signs You’re Healing From Codependent Relationships

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    Pilar

    5 signs you’re healing from codependent relationships 1 / You know you’re healing when you stop expecting change from someone who has shown you they’re committed to staying the same. 2 / You know you’re healing when you stop focusing on rescuing others who aren’t asking for your help. 3 / You know you’re healing…

  • Red Flags: 5 Signs You Need to Set Boundaries

    Red Flags: 5 Signs You Need to Set Boundaries

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    Pilar

    Do you sometimes still feel that setting a boundary is unloving? Or perhaps you find yourself thinking about how nice it would be if someone else just came in and managed your boundary practice for you? This work can be sticky, confusing and even overwhelming sometimes, especially if it is new to you. But hang…

  • Finding Balance: Navigating Boundaries without Over-Explaining

    Finding Balance: Navigating Boundaries without Over-Explaining

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    Pilar

    Today we’re talking about communication and the pattern of over-explaining things. It sounds innocent, doesn’t it? Over-explaining things. But, let’s unpack it a bit.  Over-explaining is also referred to as a ‘fawning’, it happens in dynamics where there are people pleasing tendencies, or conditioned responses to deny the expression of feelings, thoughts, and needs. It…